"Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up. Furthermore, if two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone? And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
Men: I am not sure there is a better Biblical description of a friend then these verses from Ecclesiastes. The dictionary describes a friend as “a person known well to another and regarded with liking, affection, and loyalty; an intimate.” If you were to look up the meaning of friend in my dictionary it would be defined with one word: Diana. We were very close friends before we were romantically involved and that friendship has continued through almost 41 years of marriage. Whenever we have been faced with some serious situations we tell each other, “remember we’re in this together.” Can you say that your wife is truly your best friend? If not, I encourage you to earnestly seek the Lord’s help in developing a close friendship in your marriage. I love verse 10 because I believe it pictures beautifully what a husband/wife friendship looks like: “For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion….”
Father, please help me to live out Eccl 4:9-12 and truly become my wife’s best friend.
Ladies: I’m always reading something, and the other day came across a blog on marriage that had a title that caught my eye. It said: “Friendship in marriage is the glue that keeps you together”. My first thought was, no….Jesus is the glue that keeps us together, but, I agree friendship is really important. In fact, I’ve talked to women that are very lonely in their relationship with their husband and maybe friendship is what’s missing? As we get older, and the longer we are married this might become even more important. What are some characteristics of a friend? Talk to each other a lot- good communication; Appreciate each other and usually show it by saying something and doing something special; Being kind and understanding with each other; Have fun together (love that one!); I could go on, but I’ll let you fill in what being a friend is to you. After the kids leave home and we are alone with each other, being friends is such an amazing treasure. I guess that’s why it’s so important to invest in friendship with our husbands while we are young and keep it up no matter what season we are in. The exciting thing is, it’s never too late to start! “A friend loves at all times….” Prov 17:17
Lord, Thank You that You meet all our needs. I pray for our marriages, that we can experience friendship as You planned it to be. Lord, show us how to be friends with our husbands. Thank You that no matter what situation we are in, You are our greatest Friend. I love you Lord!
Dedicated to Prayer,
Dave and Diana
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